Being raised a Catholic, I was taught birth control leads to death, destruction, divorce and ultimately hell. Condoms were in the same category as cocaine. What I was not taught was that as long as you call it natural family planning, it’s totally fine. As long as you are also totally fine with surprises. And as long as you call these surprises blessings. Which in the long run, they are.
In the Protestant world, it’s far less often considered a black and white issue. Many young couples choose to wait until they’re financially stable to be fruitful and others turn to birth control to limit the amount and season of fruitfulness.
I am not an authority on this subject nor do I claim to be. I am just one of the many young fertile Christian women who want diapers later but want sex now. It’s both been “proven” to be biblically righteous and “proven” to be biblically evil and currently my life situation and personal beliefs have put me into the biblically righteous camp. And luckily for us, that camp is coed.
Thus the new question became, what form of birth control is best?
The two most common types of birth control are the hormonal method and the barrier method, or what we call the pill and condoms. Or peepee teepees if you are weird.
Fort Collins tends to be a highly Boulder influenced part of Colorado and many of my friends tend to lean towards naturalism. Which limits them to natural family planning and/or the use of condoms. Nevermind that condoms are latex which is far from natural. But anyways. For the women in my life that want to avoid altering their hormones or body in anyway, the NFP method is attractive and sometimes even effective. If your cycle is regular and you are diligent about the temperature taking and abstaining during your most fertile days, it is 75 to 88 percent effective. Which means you should be about 12 to 25 percent ready for a little blessing. For example, my brother.
The pill is typically taken once a day and contains either both progestin and estrogen or progesterone. The typical debate over the pill is whether or not it prevents conception or solely implantation. The latter being largely considered abortive. Asking your doctor and researching your particular pill is important, especially because of how many are out there and how vastly different their effects on your body can be.
Another common concern about the pill is that it makes you crazy. Or perhaps just more aware of your craziness. If you find you or your spouse is overreacting, overemotional, overeating or just over it, perhaps it’s worth looking into. It could be related to the hormones in the pill, but it could just be the hormones in the person. Or the person themselves. I refer to this as psycho spouse syndrome and I’d suggest looking into it before signing the marriage certificate and especially before procreating.
I was prescribed the pill six months before my wedding for acne (the regulation of hormones can reduce breakouts). This made my skin better and my birth control options simpler. And so far, no sign of acne nor babies. I’ll keep you posted.
There is a lot of research out there and it’s good to know what you’re putting in your body and why, and consider side effects and implications of all your options. Not to mention being on the same page as your partner. Talking with people you know and trust who have gone before you can also be a valuable resource. It’s not as scary as you think.